I asked my wife the same question. She smiled and quoted my Facebook status, “Life is actually simple, but the people around you make it tough to survive.” And she continued, “It is a sin to be born as a girl child in this world. In earlier days when a girl was in the womb, she was forced to miss the moment when she was supposed to enter the world. A decade back at the time of birth her relatives wrung her neck and thrown her into a trashcan. If by any chance if she gets an opportunity to breathe in this world then she misses all roses of life and was finally fitted to a graveyard because that is where she will get peace of mind. ‘Till that time she has to fight with her relatives, male friends (a small bunch of idiots), uncles (most of the men in late thirties) and oldies (walks and talks in a decent tone, still eying on you despite their age). No girls are safe in our home country because not everybody can be as sweet as my father and my hubby!” She went inside the kitchen to prepare dinner for us.
Only a girl know our Nation better. Having read a lot of articles on rape in the recent years – #SrilankanTamilianRape #HaryanaRape #DelhiGangRape #MumbaiGangRape I have no idea on what to tip my fellow Indians on safety…but a few worth sharing here…not just for my city girls, but for all of my home country.
Spray: Carry a pepper spray or chilli spray in your handbag, which will serve as a self-defence weapon. Though they are bit costly, still it is very effective when put to proper use.
Teach: Teach your sons and grandsons how to behave with girls so that our future generations will not face this problem. Do not hesitate to speak with them because it is better for them to learn from you.
Apps: Almost all of us use touch phones today, so why not to use it for better output? Whatsapp, Facebook, Skype and BBM are good apps to stay connected, but in an emergency, safety apps like Smart Suraksha is must. At a single touch, the app will update your whereabouts to police and to your loved ones. Install and configure right away to stay protected. For more info about the app, visit here. On the other hand, make sure your battery is not empty because smart phones eat your battery like anything. Use power banks wisely. Always stay charged.
You: Believe in you. Be bold and follow your intuitions. An in any emergency, I am sure you are the best support and protector to yourself.
Speed Dials: If you do not have a touch or android phone, then use speed dials wisely. (Dad, Mom, Brother, Uncle, Close Friend, DCP or ACP phone numbers, Control Room)
Awareness: Be aware of your surroundings. When alone, you must know your whereabouts, if not use your Google maps. If you feel unsecured, get out of that place immediately.
Family and Friends: Let your family know your whereabouts, if not at least your close friends know where and whom you are visiting. Because nothing would be worse than to know, that your child or friend is unsafe in an unknown’s land.
Education: “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world. Nelson Mandela” I second that. Government should provide free education to people of India rather than announcing free rice, gas, etc., for the sake of votes.
Girl: When a man cries, they say, “Be a man.” I say, “Be a girl. You are not a victim; you are the pride of our Nation!”
I: ‘I’ has a pride to stand on its own. That’s why ‘I’ is always written in CAPITAL. Have confident in you. A kick to his will put him down. (Tip: Do not become fat in your thirties itself. You need to stay healthy and fit to kick and run.)
Rights: We, as a Nation, never bothered to read and understand laws, because we think only lawyers should read the laws and advise on your rights. Know your rights. An act taken in self-defense often is not a crime at all; no punishment will be imposed.
Learn: History may be dry for some still we read it as a subject, then why not to have our Nation Laws as a subject?
Self-defence: Self-defence is an art. Learn it when you are young. If not a black belt, at least learn the basics to help yourself in the worst situation possible. I have seen elders saying that if a girl learns Karate, she might lose her grace and become tough. I am sure only fools accept this.
Tips are easy to write, and quite easy to type. And it feels good to be applauded by a few people, but only if these tips are followed, then it achieves its purpose.
Have you installed Smart Suraksha App. The app’s tagline is ‘Cry for Help – A single touch button that alerts…’ The app is primarily created for women’s safety, which can track your whereabouts and at a single touch will text to the pre-listed five contacts simultaneously and also the police. It comes with an additional feature to give details of the would-be offender, and allows you to record info like model of the car or clothes he is wearing, in your text, provided if you are in such a situation. Use this app as a weapon that can prevent you from becoming an unfortunate victim. Stay safe with Smart Suraksha.
My thoughts on the app: I strongly believe that this app can be used in all emergencies to alert your loved ones. I recommend the developer DARK MATTER INDIA to include a feature to activate the app over voice say HELP ME GOD or any short but meaningful phrase and categorize emergencies under RAPE, ACCIDENT, or any. Based on the keywords said, the app can inform whereabouts to control room, ambulance, etc. My sincere request to the readers is to send this app download link to your loved ones.
Singing off now, it is time for dinner. Stay safe. Stay smiling!